Put simply, I hated my Mom’s dog. Around the time my sisters and I were sent to
Maryville , my Mother
got a dog, a purebred collie with papers…the dog had papers. We had papers too,
we were a ward of the Catholic Church, but that dog was apparently canine
royalty or something, which made my sisters and me the peasants. We were given away and she kept the dog. I guess the ironic part is that dogs often
play a big part in a child’s life; they are a friend, a companion, a confidant,
and a protector. In my world, however, our dog was none of those things, he was
my competitor. At Maryville we could go home every other month,
except in the summer, for a weekend… we could leave on Friday and had to return
Sunday. On Friday after school we would
pack a bag for the weekend and anxiously wait to be picked up. Often my Mother
did not show up to pick us up till very late on Friday clipping our already
short time at home. I always yearned to go home, but I never seemed to find
what I was looking for once I was there.
One weekend we came home only to learn my Mother had bought
the dog, I guess she was lonely and the dog provided her with warmth and
companionship…I felt the irony of her being lonely at that moment, but it would
be years until I could come to grips with just how infuriating and truly insane
the whole situation was. It amused her that the dog was jealous of us kids….he
was used to getting all the attention, and he was not happy to share her with
us. When I wanted to get close to my Mom the dog would growl and the growling
made my Mom laugh, she thought it was all so cute, it still makes me sick
to my stomach when I think about it.
After a while, I came to understand that in life, if I wanted love and
affection from my Mother, I would have to get in line behind her boyfriends and
now her dog.
I never fully accepted, until I was much older, the idea
that my Mother wanted little or nothing to do with me and my sisters. She had
married young and always felt marriage and children had cheated her of her
youth. She was born beautiful and charming and rather than appreciating those
assets, they were a curse to her… they deformed her.
Weekends at home were often boring and non-eventful …I did
like watching TV all night and getting to eat whenever and whatever I wanted,
but little else was satisfying. As you
may guess, I did not play with the dog. Most
parents feel bad when their children are sad and in pain but my Mother did not
let such feelings burden her. Often on
Sundays when my sisters and I were returning to Maryville , I would sit in the car and
silently cry; tears would stream down my face but my Mother never acknowledged
the pain and sadness I felt, but when the dog whimpered, she comforted him.